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Cooking with Mom: Creating Memories and Strengthening Cultural Identity

Cooking with Mom: Creating Memories and Strengthening Cultural Identity

The aroma of spices, the sound of sizzling oil, and the warmth of a simmering pot - cooking is not just about preparing food; it's a cultural tradition that has been passed down from generation to generation. For families, cooking together is a meaningful way to connect, and passing down culinary traditions can be a thread that weaves the social fabric of their family and community. In particular, cooking with Mom can create lifelong memories and strengthen cultural identity.

The Importance of Cooking Together

Cooking with your children can be a fun and rewarding experience for both parent and child. For children, learning to cook is not only a practical skill, but it can also help boost their self-confidence, encourage creativity, and develop important life skills. When cooking together, children also learn about the importance of nutrition and healthy eating habits. Cooking together is also an opportunity for parents to bond with their children and create lasting memories.

Passing Down Culinary Traditions

Cooking with Mom also provides an opportunity to learn about and preserve family history and traditions. Many families have cherished recipes that have been passed down from generation to generation, and cooking together is a way to keep these traditions alive. By passing down family recipes, children learn about their cultural heritage and the importance of maintaining these traditions. Cooking also provides a space for intergenerational connections, as grandparents, parents, and children gather together to cook, eat, and share stories.

The Cultural Significance of Cooking with Mom

Cooking with Mom is not just about learning to cook or preserving family traditions. It is also a way to strengthen cultural identity and build social connections. In many cultures, cooking and eating together is a way to build community and create a sense of belonging. Through the act of cooking and sharing meals, we learn about different cultures, traditions, and ways of life. Cooking with Mom can also be a way to pass down cultural values and beliefs, and instill a sense of pride in one's heritage.

Food as a Love Language

Food is a love language in many cultures, and learning to cook with your mom can create lifelong memories and strengthen cultural identity. Here are two recipes from my own family that are inspired by my mother's culinary experiences.

Sesame Potato Chutney (Potato Salad)

This Nepalese-inspired potato salad was a staple at my home when my mother was entertaining guests. It's a crowd-pleaser that's easy to make and can be served as a side dish or a main course.


  • 3 potatoes, boiled and cubed

  • 1 onion, chopped

  • 1 sprig of cilantro, chopped

  • 2 chopped green chilies (optional)

  • Juice of one lemon

  • Spices: 1/2 tsp mustard seeds, 1/2 tsp coriander seeds, 1/2 cup roasted white sesame seeds, 1 tsp chili powder, salt to taste, 2 tbsp mustard oil, 1 dried chili


  1. Mix together the potatoes, onions, cilantro, and green chilies (if using) in a bowl.

  2. Add the spice powders and salt and mix well.

  3. Roast the sesame seeds until they turn brown, then pulse them in a mixer to have a grainy texture. Add to the potato mixture.

  4. In a small pan, heat the mustard oil and temper the mustard, coriander seeds, and dried chili. Pour over the potato mixture.

  5. Cover for 2 minutes, then mix well and serve.

Wine Pairings

Sesame Potato Chutney pairs well with a light white wine, such as a Sauvignon Blanc or Pinot Grigio. For a red option, a light-bodied Pinot Noir would also work well.

there are many options depending on your preference and budget. For a Sauvignon Blanc, some popular options are Cloudy Bay from New Zealand or Sancerre from France. For Pinot Grigio, you could try Santa Margherita from Italy or Acrobat from Oregon. If you prefer red wine, some good options for Pinot Noir include La Crema from California or Archery Summit from Oregon.

Steamed Mustard Coconut Shrimp

This Bengali classic is a dish that every Bengali household has its own variation of. It's a simple yet flavorful shrimp dish that's perfect for a quick weeknight meal or a special occasion.


  • 1 cup shrimp

  • 3 tsp mustard paste (soak yellow and black mustard overnight and make a paste with past and chili or easier option use store-bought mustard paste or Kasundi)

  • 3 tbsp grated coconut

  • 2 green chilies, chopped

  • Salt to taste

  • 1 tsp sugar

  • 1 tsp turmeric powder

  • Chopped cilantro

  • 2 tablespoons mustard oil


  1. Mix all the ingredients together in a wok.

  2. Add water and mix again.

  3. Add the mixture to a closed steel dabba and boil water.

  4. Steam the mix for 5 minutes.

  5. Check to see if the shrimp has turned pink; if so, it's cooked.

  6. Serve with hot rice.

For the Steamed Mustard Coconut Shrimp, a medium-bodied white wine like a Chardonnay or Viognier would work well.

  1. Rombauer Vineyards Chardonnay - This wine has notes of ripe peach, mango, and vanilla, which would complement the rich coconut and mustard flavors in the dish.

  2. Peter Michael Winery "Belle Cote" Chardonnay. This wine is more complex, with flavors of lemon curd, honey, and hazelnuts, making it a great match for the subtle spice and sweetness of the shrimp.

  3. Yalumba Viognier "The Virgilius" This white wine has flavors of stone fruit and floral notes that would pair nicely with the tropical coconut and mustard in the dish.

These wines can be found at most wine retailers in the US, such as Total Wine & More or

Happy Mother's Day!

As we celebrate Mother's Day, let us take a moment to appreciate the many ways in which our mothers have nurtured us, both physically and emotionally. Cooking with Mom is one way to strengthen the bond between parent and child, and create cherished memories that will last a lifetime. So, let's roll up our sleeves, put on our aprons, and get cooking!

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